Friends

After read E's blog about 19 year later reunion, I started to think about how we make friends recently.
I got to know E because she is a friend of Jas. Jas became a friend with Terry is because of me. In tokyo, my friends from college connected me and their friends.Then it looks like I have a lot of friends. But without friends from PKU, I may have no friends around now...(people I knew during my KEIO time, also closer than others, but most of them are not easy to see frequently...)
People say the older you get, the harder for you to open your heart to someone in order to just make friends.Back 10 years or longer time ago, friendships started with a 'Hi' on hallway or a nod with smile in some classroom...
I always think I am luky to have friends to have fun together, to share feelings or thoughts. Looking at those people, especially in Japan, who just 'social' with others and seemed have many 'friends', I always want to tell them- stop wasting time and go to find some real friends! Well, I hate such kind of social and I barely social even with my coworks and my boss.
People social in office for better impression or evluation. But I don't. Well, it is not a bad thing to make your boss like you by listening to his story or things he likes talking about, but I don't like to hear anyone repeat anything. Smart people or people talk wiht heart don't repeat unimportant things, and don't say things without meaning.I don't spend time on this to torture myself.
T sometimes says that I am too streight to everything and always try to make things pure black and white. This is hard to make friends as an adult. I know he is right, but I don't need to just make friend because I have good ones already.
Friendship is something necessary like air, something you can't comprimise with your heart, something you can't lose all the time. So I am so blessed that I have already have enough air to live.